Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Some emails on Jacobsen's diagnosis

A week or two after he was diagnosed.


Here are two emails the first from my dad and then the next from my mom from two years ago when we were in the hospital getting Jacobsen's diagnosis. I love reading them and hearing and remembering the hope and innocence we had that Jacobsen was going to be fine and the doctors would be wrong. Most of the time with Hodges I have zero hope in an earthly cure so it for some strange reason is really comforting to remember a time when SMA was not a staple in our lives. These two emails give a pretty good summary of what went on and what we were hit with that week in the hospital. I am so thankful I have these because I have found when my body is under extreme stress my memory is terrible.

This is from my dad to our family:
Jacobsen was admitted to Egleston Children's Hospital last evening for test. Ashley will of course be staying with him; both Ashley and Rich stayed with him last night. Today they plan to take blood, and he will be evaluated by a Neurologist and a Geneticist. The problem that we see with Jacobsen is that he is not moving his legs and arms or moving his head like he should for his age. Until now, we have attributed this lack of movement to his laid back disposition; this is unlike Kensington who is a "wild woman". Maybe Jacobsen will just be slower to develop, but the doctors are concerned. This could potentially be a serious problem, but we hope and pray that this is a problem that will correct itself as he develops or that can be corrected with diet and medication. Until the test and evaluation are completed, we wont know. Please keep Jacobsen, Ashley, Rich , and Kensington in your prayers.

This is from my mom to one of my cousins:
Thank you so much. They are both trying to keep it together. At this time the general consensus between the team of pediatricians, neurologists and geneticists is that he has a genetic disorder called Spinal Muscular Atrophy (SMA). Blood work will be done by the geneticists this am and tomorrow the neurologists will do an EMG which is an electrode test. Hopefully we will have some results from the neurologists soon, but the blood work could take up to 2 weeks for results due to DNA and other complex tests that will be done. The doctors don't like the way he is breathing and have him on oxygen which seems to help. If you look this up on the internet, it is very bad news. This is considered a neuro-muscular disorder. Of course the doctors arn't 100% sure, but I would say from what each team is telling them that they are 98% sure this is what we are dealing with. It is a degenerative disorder which means that things will only go down hill from here. Ashley has asked the big question, what kind of timeline are we looking at and the drs told them that according to what plan they choose for Jacobsen, ventilators, feeding tubes, etc. as they become necessary, most babies with this disorder might see their first birthday. Needless to say we are all devastated. Sorry for going on like this, but I really believe we can all pray more effectively if we are aware. Now we just have to hope that all the drs are wrong and that this is only a minor setback and he will be up and swinging the golf club right beside his daddy a year from now. As we receive results, we will keep passing them on. At this point they don't know when he will be able to go home. Ashley and Rich will have to be taught how to care for him before they can bring him home. Luckily with us living together we can try to help as much as possible. Kensington is being passed around and is loving all the attention. Yesterday at the hospital she kept wanting Ashley which is what Ashley needed. She is definitely a light in all this that is going on. Again thank you for your prayers, family is what sustains us at times like these.

Monday, November 9, 2009

Ballet

Last week was "parent watch week". It was by far the best entertainment and it was amazing to see what little minds have learned in such a small amount of time.







Sunday, November 8, 2009

One Year Old!!

Today is Hodges' official first birthday!! One year ago today I had no idea what today a year later would look like. Would Hodges still be alive? If so, what would his quality of life look like. I am so blessed to say he is doing great. It has been a very long year. It has to be by far the hardest year of my life. The most frustrating, exhausting, sorrowful year I have ever experienced. BUT, we made it through. God has been faithful even when I have not been faithful, when I have doubted, when I have cried out in anger God has been there all along the way and I stand amazed at a love with no limits.

Here are some pictures of today because of course even though we already had a party last weekend we could not let today go by without a celebration.





Saturday, November 7, 2009

A Very Special Gift

A local business who is owned by one of our family members and his good friend bought Hodges a special needs stroller that he has needed for awhile now. This is a HUGE gift for Hodges and our family!! It will make outings with Hodges so much easier. The new stroller accommodates almost every piece of Hodges equipment and it fully supports Hodges so he can see the world so much easier than before. We are beyond grateful and so touched by these two men's Christlike hearts.

The stroller arrived yesterday and after granddad spending several hours putting it together we got Hodges in it. He was a little unsure but then he was all smiles!








Kenz loved playing in the box the stroller came in!


Friday, November 6, 2009

How SMA hit us the 1st time

Jacobsen two years ago today

Yesterday November 5th was two years exactly that I first heard the term SMA. Jacobsen had a cough and I took him into our pediatrician. As the doctor asked what was going on I said "He has a cough and also on a side note we think he looks a little weak, he is not moving like he used to". The doctor ignored the comment about the cough and immediately started checking Jacobsen's reflexes and messing with every part of his body. He asked if Jacobsen had any honey lately and of course the answer was no. So that ruled out botulism. Jacobsen was right at six weeks old. He left the room and said he had to make some calls. I was calm. Not worried at all. He came back in after probably 20 minutes and said we were going to the Children's hospital in Atlanta. My heart began to beat a little faster but the our pediatrician said it was probably a metabolic issue where Jacobsen was just not getting enough or getting too much of something in his diet. Very FIXABLE is what I thought. We took Kensington to Rich's parents house. It is amazing two years ago I still remember almost every detail before we got the terrible news and then it all goes a little blurry. So my parents went with me to the hospital and Rich met us there from his work. We get into a room and after an hour or so a group of doctors come in. They examine Jacobsen and then say they are just not sure what it is that is causing the low muscle tone. Of course as a mama I have to push and say "Well what are some options you are looking at?" The one doctor speaks up and says well there is something called Spinal Muscular Atrophy. It is a genetic neuro-muscular disorder. My mom pipes up and says well what is the prognosis. She said later she was thinking "are we looking at worse case senerio a wheelchair for his life?" The doctor with a very sad face says "the prognosis is grim, most babies with it do not make it to their first birthday". I remember my mom started to cry and I thought "Oh mom this is not it". I was totally not alarmed and it did not even occur to me that we could be getting that kind of a diagnosis.
After my parents left Rich and I got on the Internet and looked up SMA. When we read the characteristics of an SMA child we started to get a little alarmed. Jacobsen fit so many of the descriptions.
The next day we saw a bunch of doctors and more and more all but confirmed that they thought it was SMA. OUR WORLD CRUMBLED. I will never forget the disbelief and total heart break I experienced that day. The doctors said a DNA test needed to be ordered and an EMG on his nerves would tell us for sure. I tried to hold out that these things would come back not SMA but after reading the symptoms for SMA and holding my new six week old baby I knew it was a match.
I remember laying in Jacobsen's crib with him that second night and crying out to God for help. I remember praying "God if this is my cross to bear, please help me because I do not want to let you down".
I was going through my Jacobsen email folder and found several emails form different people that sum up pretty well all that went on that week so I will try to share those in the coming days.

Sunday, November 1, 2009

More Party Pictures :)

















Saturday, October 31, 2009

Hodges Birthday Party

We ended up having a birthday party for Hodges today and it was lots of fun! We did a Halloween/costume party and the kids seemed to really enjoy the crafts and playing. Here are just some of the pictures. I am having a hard time picking which ones to post so just bare with me there are going to be A LOT of pictures :-)

Thank you so much to Gaga, Mimi, my grandma, Aunt Erin, Aunt Laurel, Aunt Brittany, Pappy and Grandad for all of your hard work to pull the party together!!!






















Birthday cards from our church members for Hodges